I Fell in Love with an Asexual

Book excerpt: Winner, Sexuality, Beverly Hills Book Awards.Are you in a sexless marriage or relationship with someone who may be a low-interest asexual? Praised by leading sexuality experts, this self-help memoir from the sexual partner's perspective is a first.Millions worldwide may be asexual--with some exceptions, they do not experience sexual attraction. Asexuality remains the "invisible orientation," largely unknown and misunderstood.While some asexuals enjoy sex, a large majority do not. For those who do not, relationships with sexually motivated people can be challenging. Because in-depth discussion and education about sexuality are limited in our culture, both partners may initially be unaware of their differences. This can create frustration and confusion. Blaming helps no one.Blending elements of Evan Ocean's intimate story with his own, Dave Wheitner shares expertise and perspective from counseling and psychology degrees, sexuality and intimacy training, and firsthand experiences similar to Evan's. The book cites 120+ sources, including works by asexual authors.Learn how to recognize asexuality, clarify your sexual needs, identify barriers to sexual fulfillment such as guilt and shame, expand your options for sharing physical intimacy, communicate with your partner, explore sensitive topics like sexual entitlement and body insecurity, accept your partner while taking ownership of your own sexual expression, and enlist support if needed.Whether you're a sexually motivated partner or relationship professional, the candid story, insights, tools, and tips will resonate with you.This new second edition incorporates feedback on the first edition.