Beyond the Breakup

Book excerpt: Written by a man with extensive experience on the topic, Beyond the Breakup explains how men think about breakups, their ex-girlfriend, and how they perceive her behavior in the wake of a relationship's end. It also explains the implications this has for girls who are going through a breakup: what will and won't have an emotional effect on him, how to maximize your chances of getting him back, how and when you should contact him, what you should (and shouldn't) say, how to deal with seeing him again, and much more. The list of the chapter titles below give a good overview of the content. This book is not written for women with a weak spirit. It isn’t going to tell you how to mitigate the pain you feel in the wake of a breakup, and it isn’t going to tell you that everything is going to be fine. And while it will tell you how to maximize your chances of getting your ex back, it isn’t going to pretend that there are any ‘tricks’ to make that outcome likely. However, it will do something much more important: it will give you a strong insight into your ex’s state of mind and male psychology in general. This will give you the foundation you need to navigate the breakup and – more importantly – propel yourself into honest and successful relationships with the men in your future. Chapter List: Introduction PART I – UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPENED Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do The Analogy Between Sex and Commitment Why This Always Happens to You Changing Your Perspective Why You Didn’t See It Coming Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems” The Difference Between Liking You and Liking You Enough Why Men “Fade Out” You Weren’t Dating Him in the First Place The Small Things Didn’t Matter Anyway Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You Your Ex and Guilt Your Ex and Pride Your Ex and Decisiveness Interpreting His Emotions What’s Going Through His Mind PART II – HOW TO HANDLE THE BREAKUP The Importance of Silence after a Breakup No, You Can’t Be “Just Friends” How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off Why It’s Never Too Late Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off What to Say Managing Your Expectations When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship Exceptions to the Rule How to Know If You Should Dump Him First When He Cheats The Anatomy of Missing Him PART III – FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH THE BREAKUP Making Him Jealous Doesn’t Work Seeing Him at Work Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back What to Do When He Contacts You When He Says He Wants Another Chance Reason and Distraction Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You PART IV – MOVING ON AND REBUILDING You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time Know Why You Want Him Back Why Getting Him Back Won’t Help Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing The Importance of Emotional Honesty Dating Again Putting the Breakup in Perspective When You Can Contact Him Again Reframing the Future A Final Word